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15 places to have sex that are not your bedroom.

If the bed remains the most comfortable place to make love, there’s nothing wrong to alternate with more exciting places from time to time. At work, in the car, on the beach, at the cinema… 15 unusual ideas that will make him more excited than ever!

N° 1: The park

Why?

What could be more romantic than a park for making love? On the grass or on a bench, you can enjoy the chirping of the birds with your partner while he’s doing you.

having sex In the park

Advantages

In a park, you can use the benches, the trees (to lean against), the desolate meadow… A return to nature when you are used to living in the city and going back into the forest is not easy. But it can be real fun!

You can even enjoy your insertable toy while walking in the park – no one will know your kinky secret except for your partner who will control it from his pocket.

Disadvantages

The park does not always provide lovers with the ultimate comfort. The marathon of insects under the dress and the branches that scratch the skin may repel the idea from your thoughts.

The ideal positions

– Simple caresses under the skirt and trousers, lying on the grass, far from the walkers.

– The emu: a variant of doggy-style, where the woman leans on a tree.

– Quick fellatio, with the man leaning against a tree

Precautions to be taken

Go to the park either very early in the morning or very late in the evening. Beware of the walkers and the park guard – remember that indecent behavior is punishable by law. Choose a garden where there are many quiet places, to hide in case of trouble.

N° 2: The cinema

Why?

A movie theater plunged into darkness allows you to do more than you can imagine. Just choose the back seats, and start performing in your own naughty movie.

having sex at the cinema

The advantages

The absence of light will encourage even the timidest couples. It allows them to engage in a few sexual experiences without fear of being noticed.

The negative aspect:

Having sex in a movie theater means being discreet. It is out of the question to stand up and start trying all the positions of the Kamasutra. That would be a 3D show that the spectators might not appreciate. So we will only stick to the preliminaries.

The ideal positions

– Caresses, mutual or not, under the skirt or pants. What’s the point? To build up the excitement without going all the way. We stare at the screen and don’t look at each other, to concentrate on our own pleasure.

– A Fellatio given to your partner. The woman turns on her side and takes care of her partner, who tries not to make any noise during the performance.

Precautions to be taken

If possible, you should stand in the last row and against a wall. Watch out for the spectators on your diagonal or on the sides, who are best able to spot you. The woman should replace her skirt or dress, to facilitate the access of her partner’s fingers or mouth.

N° 3: The public toilets

Why?

There’s more excitement in public restrooms, I’ll grant you that. Only, if they are well maintained, they are an ideal place for a little sexy time.

having sex in a public toilet

Advantages

Can’t be detected. If we go into action right away and skip the foreplay, no one will notice us.

The disadvantages

Even if the toilet is well maintained, avoid sitting directly on the toilet seat. This fact, combined with the small size of the premises, limits the possibilities.

Ideal positions

– Back to the wall: the man lifts the woman up and slams her against the wall. She then wraps her arms and legs around her lover’s body.

– Doggy style performed standing up: the woman leans on the lid of the toilet, which should be closed prior to the act.

Precautions to be taken

Do not use this variant if the toilet does not look perfectly clean.

N° 4: The fitting room

Why?

Because women can control the entire experience. After titillating your partner while trying your new bra, you discreetly invite him to join you. Terribly erotic.

Sex in the fitting room

Pros

The ability to play with your man’s desire. You put on sexier and sexier clothes until he’s on the verge of exploding. That’s when we let him in. Not until then.

Cons

We have to be absolutely discreet. Sharing a fitting room between two people without being noticed is no easy task. But this makes the entire experience even more exciting!

The ideal positions

– Back to the wall (if you’re infatuated with a big man).

– Venus’ collar: if the cabin is equipped with a wide enough bench, you can sit on it by leaning on our forearms. The man lifts our legs and wraps them around his neck. He then gently pulls us towards him, so that your buttocks are in the right place.

– Again, doggy-style performed standing up if the width of the bench allows it.

– Quick fellatio, with the man sitting or standing.

– Cunnilingus, sitting on the bench with legs straddled.

Precautions to be taken

It is better to choose a department store, with a lot of traffic, so there’s less chance for you and your lover to get spotted.

No5: At work

Why?
A change that will be super exciting for your man because you’ll be making him a surprise that’s totally unexpected (and will be appreciated in a positive way).

sex at the office

Pros
Having sex in a place where such behavior is prohibited makes the experience even more exciting. This is how you can tease your lover but be careful – if you are not able to use the privacy of a lockable office room, you may risk his work position.

If you don’t want to get undressed, the least you can do is have some fun with a small powerful vibrator – you can discreetly carry one in your handbag and start teasing him in the privacy of his office. How about a prostate massage during lunch break?

Cons
This is the kind of pleasure that requires having a personal office. Another drawback is that you have to discreetly make sure that your partner’s schedule allows it.

The ideal positions
If the office is big enough, anything goes.

Precautions to be taken
Draw the curtains and make sure no one can enter the room. Choose the lunch break to minimize the risk of being spotted.

N° 6: The car

Why?

To replay the Titanic scene in a more modern way. If space is tight, the adjustable seating position allows many variations.

Having sex in a car

The advantages

Without falling into the cliché, we take advantage of the situation to take control. We ask our partner to sit quietly and let it happen.

Disadvantages

The windshield, the gear lever, objects left in the glove box can get in the way. At the front seat, the positions remain limited.

The ideal positions

– Languid fellation given while ‘driving’ – vehicle stopped.

– The rider: we sit astride our man, lowering the seat a little so as not to hurt our back with the steering wheel.

– At the back seat: In the backseat, the woman lies on the man’s back with her legs raised all the way up and her ankles as closes to his shoulders/head as possible. He enters her from a missionary position.

Precautions to be taken

Parking in a desolate corner…but not very visible. A stationary car could get the attention of the police.

N° 7: The elevator

Why?

Because it can raise us to seventh heaven.

Sexy time in the elevator

Pros

Out of sight, you can be certain you won’t be spotted.

Cons

Immobilizing the sensor implies making love quickly, so as not to give rise to suspicion.

The ideal positions

Technically, we can lie on the floor or on top of our partner.

But we prefer the missionary or the Andromache (cowgirl):

– A vigorous blowjob: you kneel before your man leaning against the wall.

– Back to the wall: our partner puts us against the wall and lifts us by the thighs.

– The emu, leaning against the elevator walls.

Precautions to be taken

Make sure that a stop button is available in the lift. If in the movies, unbuttoning and dressing are done in 5 floors, the reality is quite different.

N° 8: On the beach

Why?

Because in the summertime, we leave aside veils and pillows to play with shellfish and crustaceans.

Having sex at the beach

Pros

The sound of the waves, the refreshing sea mist, the iodine fragrance… a particularly romantic scenery for making love.

Cons

The sand can give you and your partner really unpleasant sensations. It’s also hard to find a deserted beach.

The ideal positions

Although the beach leaves an unlimited choice of positions, the romantic missionary is usually chosen, as it facilitates penetration. But then again, there’s too much sand.

Precautions to be taken

Bring a – very – large towel, so as not to be in contact with the sand. Find a beach with very few people or go there in the evening – if the climate allows it.

N° 9: In a friend’s bathroom during an evening party

Why?

To rediscover the excitement of teenage love affairs by isolating yourselves from the lovely evening with friends, that’s kinda boring. We double lock the bathroom and indulge in sexual activities like normal grown-up kids.

Havin sex at dinner party

Pros

The lack of limitations when it comes to performance and the need to hurry add spice to the sexual activity.

Cons

Having to hurry, while very erotic, can actually block you. You can only indulge in this pleasure if you are as excited as your partner and able to skip the foreplay.

The ideal positions

– Intense fellatio, effective and fast. No time for gentle caresses.

– The emu (doggy-style performed standing up), placing his hands on the edge of the bathtub – if there is one.

– Cunnilingus, sitting on the bathtub, bidet or toilet (lid closed).

– Back to the wall: the man places you against the bathroom door – being careful not to make any noise.

Precautions to be taken

Make sure the lock is securely closed. If the frolics have lasted longer than expected, before going out, run your mascara with water and simulate an argument, before returning to the salon within a minute.

N° 10: In the middle of the street

Why?

Under the cobblestones, the skids. We’re abandoning the comfort of the marital bed for the rough walls of the street buildings.

Sex while the street is empty

Advantages

There’s no room for fuss here. You indulge in almost bestial sexuality that comes from your insatiable appetite. No more eroticism, just straight to the point.

Disadvantages

It’s best not to live in a crowded neighborhood. Driving all the way to a distinct area would do you a great favor in case you have neighbors who enjoy knowing what happens on the street.

The ideal positions

– A quick blowjob (the man standing against a wall, the woman on her knees).

– Back to the wall (the man lifts the woman).

– Doggy-style performed while standing, propped against a wall.

-If you’re not that brave, you can always let him tease you while you’re wearing a panty vibrator – this way, you’ll just add a little spice without any risks of suspicious neighbors.

Precautions to be taken

Make sure no one can spot you – not even peeping Toms.

No. 11: In the fields

What’s that for?

Because you can take advantage of the holidays (or while visiting your parents in their country house). Just get in the car and keep driving until you reach remote fields and you see no people nearby.

Having sex in nature

Pros

Well hidden in the grass (the higher the grass, the better for you) in the comfort of Mother nature

Cons

Plants and insects can tickle and scratch. He should undress his clothes and place them underneath your body for additional protection.

Ideal positions

The little space between the plants not leaving much room, he will stick to a classic missionary.

Precautions to be taken

Ensure that the field owner does not roam around and that no animals have access to the pasture.

No. 12: In transport (train, plane, boat …)

Why?

Because travel is a fulfilling experience… and the couple traveling abroad is more likely to enjoy new places for having sex. He takes advantage of the holidays to spice up the long, boring journeys and makes you way more enthusiastic about your trip.

Sex in a train bed

Positive aspects

A common fantasy among couples, making love while traveling the open sea or in the air rekindles passions by titillating our imagination.

Such trips allow you to bring your favorite rabbit toy with you, having that you already took a suitcase. Just make sure you have completely charged it before your sexy train trip.

Negative aspects

It’s not always easy to indulge in pleasure discreetly. While night trips in wagon-lits or cabins allow you to remain discreet, this is not the case for day trips. It gets harder not to get spotted.

The ideal positions

– In the toilets: doggy-style doggy performed standing up, however, toilettes are usually crowded so you have to pay attention while exiting.

– Sitting next to each other: mutual caresses performed under a garment lying on the knees.

– In the bunks: as in a bedroom, anything goes!

Precautions to be taken

As for discretion, no problem in the bunks. But for the toilets, he will have to join you after a couple of minutes so to avoid any suspicion.

N° 13: In the forest

Why?

While making love in the forest, you both risk of being spotted. Still, the forest remains a very exciting place to show your lover how wild you are.

sex in the forest

Pros

Forget about the modern world, let go of all to-do lists and indulge in fantasies that one would not necessarily have dared to realize in the marital bed.

Cons

In winter and autumn, it is impossible to lean against a tree or lie on the ground. It’s just too cold. And the dead leaves won’t keep your privacy.

Ideal positions

– The emu, leaning against a tree

– Blowjob, partner sitting on a stump – dry! – with the pants barely lowered, for better protection against insects.

– Lying down on a tablecloth that has been provided for this purpose, you can try several positions lying down… just, be creative!

Precautions to be taken

Make sure the weather is favorable for long walks. Avoid rainy days too much moisture.

No. 14: At the hotel room

Why?

Because in most sensual fantasies, the hotel room is often associated with sex. And a place, reserved to bring you privacy! In short, both partners can enjoy a weekend entirely dedicated to lust.

having sex at the hotel room

Pros

A bed, a bathtub (or a shower), even if you already have all that at home. But, at the hotel, the perception is totally different. When taken out of their simply functional context, they can suddenly become terribly erotic place to play naughty.

Cons

Nothing to declare. Except for the maid who comes into the room despite the “Do not disturb” sign?

The ideal positions

Anything goes!

Precautions to be taken

Remember to bring sexy lingerie, sex toys (if you wish) and sexy board games, to avoid being bored.

To make the most of your stay, follow this advice and try to enjoy your partner’s body all night long. Even if you feel exhausted the next day, you’ll remember your passionate hotel room long after.

N° 15: In the water

Why?

The water is where your libido involuntarily increases! In the sea or in the swimming pool, the delicious water ripples offer new sensations.

having sex in water

Pros

In water, bodies are lighter. We thank physics that facilitates the positions, where the woman can be carried. This is something your partner may usually find difficult to perform for a long time, even if you’re skinny.

Cons

You have to be aware that in the water you can get stuck. Literally.

The ideal positions

– He can lay his back to the corner of the pool and you can straddle.  If there’s nowhere to lean, the man carries the woman, who wraps her legs around him.

– Doggy-style while standing, when the water reaches the neck of the shorter one of you.

– The most practical thing to do is probably to stick to foreplay, while languidly yet sensually kissing your partner.

Precautions to be taken

In the sea, you should try to go as far as possible, while still reaching the bottom. You should target the beaches that are not often visited, avoiding the busiest hours. At the swimming pool, it’s even more likely to get spotted.

Amie Dawson, Ph.D.

Amie Dawson, Ph.D.

Amie is your go-to gal for all things related to sex and sexual well-being.

A certified sex educator and award-winning sex toy reviewer, Amie has spent her career empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sexuality.

With a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and an ever-growing collection of over 200 vibrators, she's got the knowledge and experience to guide you on your pleasure-seeking journey.

1 comment


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