It’s an easy question with a long answer.

Firstly is intended for both women and men.

You may be a woman who is a little unsure of how to explore your own body or sexuality. Equally, you may be a more experienced woman who would like to share your experiences and techniques with others so that they may learn.

The guys are welcome here, too. You may want to learn how to please your woman or at least how to pleasure her more. If you think you know it all, please look around and then tell us what works for you and your lady.

We review toys, furniture, games, books, and pretty much anything and everything that can help you have a better and more satisfied sexual life.

So, just who is behind TheToy?

TheToy is now run by Amie D., Nataly R & Michael S. To learn more about us as individuals, click on our names above. As a collective group, we make up TheToy team, each of us bringing our own skills and experiences to

The Toy is not about us, though. We are just the keepers. The real stars of the site are you, the visitors.

And if you need to get in touch, fill out this form.

Meet TheToy team

Amie Dawson

Amie is webmistress and head honcho at TheToy. She’s been married for seven years and has two kids.

For the past 10 years, Amie has lived the swinging lifestyle and gets to practice what she preaches at TheToy. Like Nataly, Amie enjoys exploring new places and has lived in various parts of the world, although she will always be a Brit.

Sometimes technically challenged but always willing to try something new is the best way to describe Amie. Her motto in life is: “There is no such word as Can’t, take off the T and make it can.”

Amie's interview

We asked Amie to answer a few questions about herself:

What’s your favorite movie?

Cocktail, Pretty Women, and Men in Black are among my favorite movies, but the list is pretty exhaustive. Now, if I could just find time to watch more…

What are your favorite drinks?

Dunking Donuts Iced French Vanilla coffee. TheToy is powered on that stuff.

Who is your favorite Actor/Actress? Actor:

Russell Crowe/ Richard Gere/ Julia Roberts.

When is your birthday?


What’s your dream vacation?

A week with no kids would be good right now!! I have to say a desert island with a group of other lifestylers would be awesome, and of course, I’d take notes so I could report back to TheToy -))


Fishing, writing, sex, being able to combine the three is awesome and a lot of fun.

Favorite Food?

Fish and chips!!

What’s your favorite ice cream?

Mudslide or Moose Traxs, I’ll take them together or apart.

What’s your most prized possession?

Well, not exactly possession… but my kids.

What’s your favorite place to shop?

TJ Max and this tiny second-hand bookstore that is more like my personal library nowadays.

What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever done?

I tried to write my own PHP scripts. I managed to bring down a whole server for 8 hours -(( I was not the most popular person in the world.

How would you plan to take over the world?

When I’m the first female president of the USA, ask me again -))

Any pets?

Nope, unless you count the Hubby and kids -))

Michael S

michael sMichael is a 38-year-old male who has extensively studied all things sexual for the past 7 years. He is originally from East-Central Illinois but currently lives in a town of 1000 people in rural Minnesota.

He just recently ended a 7-year long-distance relationship. Michael was a late bloomer sexually and started studying sexuality to improve his own knowledge, technique, and ability. He feels his future lady deserves the very best he is capable of giving her.

In March of 2018, Michael began to write for TheToy to share what he has learned with others. Michael loves to write, learn, and share information with others. He especially loves to write about how to love our ladies better, honor them, cherish them, make them feel special, and give them the gift of divine pleasure!

After a year-long break to work on other projects, Michael is back as a full-time member of TheToy team. Michael has some exciting new projects in the works, including more articles, a website, sex education eBooks, and a sexual study course, so be on the lookout.

Nataly R

Nataly is a divorced mother of two pre-teens. She’s done nothing as exciting as Nitengale, but what the heck, she’s here anyway.

She has been writing erotic fiction for over four years and enjoys the challenge of keeping all the different aspects of her life running smoothly.

She likes to travel and explore new places, even if it’s only a sandy little beach along Lake Michigan.

Amie Dawson, Ph.D.

Amie Dawson, Ph.D.

As a certified sex educator and sex toy reviewer, Amie has spent her career empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sexuality.

With a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and an ever-growing collection of over 200 vibrators, she's got the knowledge and experience to guide you on your pleasure-seeking journey.

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