It is possible that masturbation is the best way to find out what excites you since you can do it all by yourself and on your own terms.
People who grew up as girls and women can be conditioned in various ways to take less pleasure in sexual activity. Most women learn very little about their genitals in childhood, and almost all of us are taught negative messages about pleasure and the appearance of our bodies.
Some women experience orgasm when their clitoris is stimulated, while others enjoy having their vagina penetrated or their G-spots stimulated. It is important to keep in mind that there is no “wrong” way to masturbate because everyone is different. Below you will find some advice on how women should masturbate in order to experience maximum pleasure with or without using sex toys.
For your sensual experiment, you will need between thirty minutes to a few hours
Here’s how to do it:
Prepare your mind and body for satisfying masturbation.
- Relax as much as possible.
Take a relaxing bath or have a glass of wine, whichever you prefer. Protect your privacy by turning off the phone, locking the door, and sending the kids to play with a friend or neighbor.
Find a comfortable position where you can relax. Most women start by lying on their backs, putting their feet on the floor, and bending and spreading their legs. Remove most or all of your clothing before you begin.
- Imagine yourself masturbating.
Describe a sexual experience from your past that is particularly memorable to you, or think about a sexual fantasy that appeals to you. If you are low on ideas, pick up a sexy magazine, read an erotic book, or watch some adult content on the Internet – the options are unlimited.
Let your mind wander to the images that appear; anything goes as long as it sparks your interest and arousal.
- Explore every single part of your body.
Run your hands over different parts of your body, pausing to focus on the areas that are more responsive to touch than the rest of your body.
Examine your genitals in the mirror (this is especially important if you do not know them) and caress the different parts to determine which sensations are most desirable.
Locate and feel your clitoris, vagina, inner and outer labia, and perineum. Also, locate and touch your vagina.
- Start touching yourself.
Using one or two fingers, start stroking the different parts of your vulva in rhythmic motions, paying special attention to your clitoris and labia.
Try different levels of pressure, speeds, and directions of movement.
You can try placing one finger on each side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or you can put two fingers on the clitoral hood and rub in circular motions. Both techniques are effective, you just need to figure out what you enjoy more.
Experiment with different types of touch, such as stroking, tickling, kneading, pinching, or gently pulling on your genitals. You can use a single finger, several fingers, the palm of your hand, or even your knuckles.
- Build arousal.
Develop the ability to maintain sexual arousal by first increasing stimulation and then either temporarily stopping or decreasing it. Explore how your body reacts and responds to the different types of stimulation.
It will make it easier for you to understand which stroke feels most pleasurable and when to speed up or slow down the pace.
- Breathe deeply and rock on.
Instead of holding your breath, try deep breathing instead. Instead of fighting your sexual energy, try to release it. Rock your pelvis as you would during sex.
- Crossing the finish line.
If you find that your hand is tiring, you can give it a break, switch between hands, or use a hands-free vibrator. If you’re on the verge of orgasm but just can’t bring yourself to do it, try becoming more aware of your breathing or focusing on a particularly arousing fantasy.
Stimulate yourself further by rubbing your nipples. You can also try inserting your other fingers or a dildo into your vagina and pulling them out again.
- Ride the wave
When you feel yourself coming to orgasm, keep up the stimulation until the orgasm is over. Decrease the intensity of the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments, but keep it up so you can enjoy the aftershocks, the little bursts of pleasure.
Your first orgasm may feel like a short burst, but as you gain experience, you’ll be able to experience a wider variety of sensations.
When it comes to masturbation, practice makes perfect.
If you don’t succeed at first, don’t be discouraged. Just keep trying, and if that doesn’t work, try some of the variations listed below.
- Mini clitoral vibrators and powerful wand massagers provide direct and intense physical stimulation to the clitoris, which eliminates some of the need for manual stimulation during the masturbation process.
- Many young women learn how to masturbate with the help of water. Place a shower hose behind your clitoris while lying back in a bath with your legs spread apart, and aim the stream of water at your clitoris. You should play around with the pressure, the pulsation, and the temperature.
Alternately, you can use the Jacuzzi jets or slide your butt over the drain so that your legs are in the air and your genitals are up under the tub faucet. Both of these positions are somewhat awkward but doable.
- Rubbing up against something can help, whether it’s a pillow, the edge of a piece of furniture, or a dildo.
- The fullness of penetration that dildos and vibrators provide, in addition to their ability to stimulate the G-Spot, makes them a potentially pleasurable addition to clitoral masturbation as an activity.