Question: Where is my G-spot?
“I have a very simple question: Does the G-spot exist? I’ve looked everywhere, but I still can’t find mine! Help!!”
You’d think this would be a simple question, but it isn’t. The reason I can’t tell you whether the G-spot exists or not requires an explanation all its own.
The first thing you should know is that we don’t know that much about sexual anatomy.
Compared with the kinds of detailed knowledge we have already developed on things like our circulatory, cardiovascular, and nervous systems, our knowledge of sexual anatomy and response is minuscule.
People are still debating the physical structures of internal genitalia.
So, for example, medical students are often taught that the clitoris is a very small structure that is mostly near the surface of the skin and only extends into the body a little. But others suggest that its structure is of significant size, and it extends much further into the body than previously thought.
The next problem with answering the G-spot question is that it is a name for a body part that the medical establishment has not yet taken on. So, you can’t go to any medical textbook and see a picture of the G-spot. This doesn’t mean that it isn’t there; it just means that it hasn’t been legitimized in the medical literature yet.
There are many other reasons for the confusion, but let me give you a more practical answer.
Whether scientists ever agree and whether it makes it into a medical textbook, many women do report that stimulating a particular spot, which is most easily reached inside the vagina, is very pleasurable.
But it is very likely that even if everyone agrees eventually that there is a G-spot, many women won’t find it pleasurable to have their G-spot stimulated. The fact is that it is probably like any other part of the body in that some people will become aroused by having it stimulated, and others won’t.
Some people go wild when you nibble on their ears. Others will find that completely annoying and a sexual turn-off. The G-spot is probably just like that.
If you follow the instructions on finding your g spot, it’s a good way to start exploring, but if you can’t “find it,” that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. It just means you’re sexual response is unique, which is something I hope all experts would agree on.
Experts say that the G-spot is located 5 to 8 cm inside the vagina, on its front wall. The place is a little rougher than the rest of the inner surface of the vagina. In a state of sexual arousal, this area swells and is harder to the touch. Prolonged and strong stimulation leads to waves of intense pleasure, flooding the whole body.
Studies show that only 30 percent of women regularly reach orgasm following G-spot stimulation. Therefore, this type of orgasm is one of the most controversial. To experience it, a woman must first find out where her G-spot is and needs patience.
Where is it, how to find it, and other interesting facts about the G-spot
- There is a reason to stimulate this area. From an anatomical point of view, it is located at the end of the clitoris.
- Although physiologically extremely clear, finding the G-spot can sometimes be difficult.
- According to some researchers, it is located on the upper wall of the vagina, but others believe that the erogenous zone is located in the uterus.
- Experts explain that the G-spot is part of the “network” of the clitoris. In other words, to “ignite” this area, it must first be stimulated.
- Many women cannot reach orgasm following G-spot stimulation due to psychological, physiological, and emotional reasons.
No one knows why some women can’t reach the peak of pleasure. It is important not to be obsessed with the thought of this area and the impossibility of finding it.
The truth is that we are different. For example, some women can reach orgasm only with nipple stimulation.
With sufficient G-spot stimulation, some women can even ejaculate.
In some places in the world, plastic surgeons offer injections targeting this area – the goal is a “swelling effect” for a better orgasm. However, this method is not approved by gynecological associations, as they believe it is not safe and effective.
How To Find Your G-spot
The debate over the G-spot seems never to end. Does it exist, is it important, should it be talked about? Does it have any usefulness? Definitive answers are rare, so while the experts debate, why not do your research and get to the heart (or “great”) of the matter? Whatever it is, the G-spot is not a magic button. It’s like any other part of your body, some people like when it’s stimulated others don’t. Some people love having their earlobes licked; for others, it’s a major turn-off. Many women can boost their G-spot using their fingers. Some people will find it easier to use a toy that is curved, either a dildo or a vibrator.
Time Required: You might find your G-spot immediately, or it could take several attempts. Don’t pressure yourself.
- Avoid performance pressure about the “magic spot.”If you become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (like multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasms, or G-spot orgasms), you can create significant performance anxiety even if you’re alone. This is the best way NOT to enjoy any sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is pretty good too). Try not to make this another notch in your sexually self-actualized belt.
- Turn yourself on.
Any homework that starts with this is bound to be somewhat fruitful. The spongy area around the G-spot gets engorged with blood when you’re sexually aroused, so it is much easier to find and feel when you’re turned on.
- Get comfortable and find the G-spot area.
Lie on your back, squat, or lie on your stomach. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use personal lube if you’re feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a “come hither” motion. When you’re up to about the second knuckle, you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina.
- Notice how the G-spot feels.
The texture of the G-spot area will likely be noticeably different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina. When you’re aroused, it can expand, so feel it at different times during your arousal to get familiar with its contours and sensitivity. The g-spot responds to pressure, so press down and pull forward using that “come hither” motion with your fingers.
- Explore the G-spot with toys.
For some, it can be awkward to stimulate the g-spot by hand. A G-spot toy or dildo can be a great helper in this. A good example of a G-spot vibrator is the rabbit vibe – it simultaneously targets the G-spot and the clitoris. Apply a little lube to your toy, and insert it with the tip (if it’s curved) pointing up toward the top wall of your vagina. Work it slowly, far enough (a couple of inches) so the tip presses against your g-spot.
- Experiment with pressure and motion.
Some women will find pressure against the G-spot pleasurable, and some women like the feeling of vibration when a toy is pressing against the G-spot. Experiment and see if either feels good for you. For most women, the G-spot responds to firm pressure. In the beginning, use your toy as if trying to scratch an itch – don’t pull the toy out, but use short strokes, applying firm pressure against the g-spot.
- Vary the movements.
A circular or back-and-forth motion may be necessary to get you started, but you might soon graduate to a more vigorous thrusting. If you’ve got a vibrator, try playing with the vibrations on and off to see which you like better.
- Add clitoral stimulation to g-spot play.
You’ll know you’re hitting the spot as you feel tingly sensations, the urge to pee, and an overall elevation in your arousal. When you feel the desire to come, add in clitoral stimulation using your favorite method. Keep stroking your G-spot.
- Let go.
With continued stimulation, you’ll eventually feel a sensation much like having to pee. This can be quite disconcerting at first and has probably led plenty of women to abandon the process, but if you stick with it, you’ll be in for a pleasant surprise. You may or may not ejaculate, but ejaculation is perfectly normal (and it’s not urine).
- If you don’t at first orgasm, try again.
It can take several practice sessions before you notice any build-up. Try varying your position, using a different toy, experimenting with breathing and kegel exercises (to strengthen your PC muscle), or having a partner help you. Because the G-spot is most responsive when aroused, you may also want to try stimulating it after you’ve had an orgasm.
- Remember the ear lobe.
Experimenting with the G-spot can be fun; you never know what you’ll learn. But try not to get hung up on this being a mind-blowing experience. If you’re playing around and it’s not doing anything for you, try something else, and know that there is nothing wrong with you, and what turns us all on is incredibly individual and unique.
Explore your body and erogenous zones with a wide range of sex toys available on the market. For clit stimulation, you can use the best bullet vibrators, wand vibrators, clit suckers, or vibrating panties. Dildos, rabbits, and love eggs are used for G-spot stimulation. There’s another category called anal vibrators – used for stimulating the rectum or/and the anus. Some devices offer hands-free pleasure or can be controlled by an app.